Here say!

15th Sep 2010


1.You are looking beautiful. ( I wish you lost weight)
2.The food was great.( it sucked)
3.I’ll do anything for you. (almost anything… maybe not)
4.Lovely pictures. ( I had to make some comment)
5.You look so good together.( where did u meet this crow?)
6.This is the best gift I ever got.( I wish you had given me
those diamonds instead.)
7.I love you.( I really do?)
8.I am fine.( My boss is never happy with my work, my
girlfriend broke up with me, my landlord has thrown me out of the apartment and I have a splitting headache!)
9.I get along so well with my in-laws.( I wish I had nothing to do with them)
10.Nice house.( What cheap taste!)
11.What a cute child u have.( What an indisciplined brat!)
12.It has been my dream to work with this company. ( I need to have any job at any cost.)
13.My marriage feels like a bed of roses all the time.( I feel like strangling my mate sometimes.)
14.My General Knowledge is very good.( Only I think so)
15.I knew the answer! I just forgot it.( I am ashamed to say I didn’t know it)
16.I wear an attitude.( I have an identity crises)
17.I drink only because I enjoy it.( I drink because of social pressure.)
18.I love paintings/golf/opera (I don’t understand it a wee bit.)
19.What will you have? Tea, coffee?? Er, just water.( Actually I am starving. How about a steaming bowl of noodles.)
20.Nice dress. (doesn’t suite you at all)
21.Louis Vuitton.( The famous painter, right? I saw his work in Rome. Breathtaking!!)
22.Avataar-What a lovely movie! ( Actually, what was it about?)
23.I like Bvlgari. Me too. ( By the way is it pronounced as Balgari, Bavalgari, or is the b silent?)

Do we really say what we mean and mean what we say???

Call it diplomacy, sycophancy or shrewdness. Call it ‘saying what the other person wants to hear’ or sometimes we ourselves want to hear. The "I have arrived" attitude. A pseudo, a liar, or a hypocrite…… Call it living in denial or pretence, hiding behind a mask. Call it doing things for the heck of it! What we do and say is sometimes just reciprocation- A befitting reaction to an action or a ‘tit for tat’. Also, the niceness is sometimes nothing but the sheer need to avoid conflict of any kind and co-exist in peace and harmony. It may also be out of compulsion. Pretence is the key to happiness for some. No matter how much we want to, or claim to appreciate honesty, the fact is we just can’t! We fear truth and its consequences. We are scared and ashamed to be honest. We try to fool our heart and souls by pleasing our ears.

Simple things like- ‘I don’t know’. ‘Sorry, but I didn’t like it’, ‘NO’, ‘I disagree’ ……… are difficult to say. It may not be easy to say a “I love you’ but it is very difficult to say, ‘I don’t anymore’.

What we say is often how we want things to be. What we do is more often how things shouldn’t be.